Love / Interest Is Not Enough

One of the hardest things I had to learn about relationships was love is not enough. Like many other lessons this one seems painfully obvious once learned, but not at all otherwise. After all, “Love is all you need” sounds much more romantic. I still remember the way I struggled with “defining” love as a teenager and in my early 20s. At the height of each new relationship I was convinced that I had finally figured out what love really was, only to find myself back at square 1 when it ended. After a few rounds I finally gave up on the notion of “one true meaning of love” and settled for the belief that it will probably keep evolving as I kept learning. Underlying my search for the “true meaning of love”, I think, was this mistaken belief that true love meant forever, that love was both necessary and sufficient for a relationship to work out. It took more than a decade and a handful of break-ups for me to realize how misleading that belief was. Continue reading →

Too hot for clothes

It’s definitely summer and this heatwave is no joke. We are looking at a high of 99 for Sunday…yikes! I’m ready for a weekend-long siesta with the primary goal of staying cool and not die of a heat stroke. Maybe it’s my Asian / Chinese background, but I really try to refrain from blasting the AC as much as possible, for environmental and financial reasons. It might also be my way of back lashing at the excessive AC at work, where I have to pile on the cardigans or sniffle and shiver from 9 to 5.

To stay cool and refrain from melting into a hot mess, I’ll be: Continue reading →

Working Out At Home

My preferred fitness routine has always been a combination of Pilates, Barre, yoga, and interval training. While living in St. Louis, New York City, and Chicago, I had belonged to full-service gyms that offered an array of classes, but sadly I haven’t found one I like since moving to Connecticut and Westchester, NY. For the last couple of years, I have been working out mostly at home, trying out a variety of online apps and youtube videos. Even though the current building I live in offer a standard gym, I’m not really a big fan of using machines. Having an instructor, even one through the phone or iPad, definitely feels more interesting and motivating for me.

Of all the online fitness offerings I have tried, ModelFit and Asana Rebel are hands down my favorites. Both are online fitness programs that offer access to an inventory of classes featuring live instructors. They are relatively new and the class offering has significantly increased in the last few months since I joined. Continue reading →

How to make hard decisions

Hard decisions are hard for a variety of reasons. Sometimes it’s a choice between two options that are equally appealing. Other times it’s the opposite: you are stuck between a rock and a hard place. Sometimes they are hard because the stakes are so high and there doesn’t seem to be room for mistakes. Other times you feel overwhelmed by the uncertainties and risks. Often it’s some combination of all of the above.

I have been giving this a lot of thoughts lately, probably because my husband and I have had to make some hard decisions, and I have also seen some of my friends and family members going through similar struggles. Maybe it’s the life stage my peers and I are in (late 20s to early 30s) that presents us with a lot of these hard decisions, or maybe it’s just life itself. My guess is 20s is when most people start to make some hard decisions, and it doesn’t really stop from there. Hopefully as people grow and learn they become better at making the hard decisions, but I’m not sure if they ever really get “easier” per se.

Reflecting upon these hard decisions, I have come up with some insights to share:

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Morning green smoothie

Ever since the weather warmed up, I’ve been making a green smoothie part of my morning commute and healthy breakfast. There are only 5 ingredients, and leaves are not even one of them (I prefer to eat my leafy greens). It’s easy, healthy, delicious, and takes minutes to whip up. Find out how you can jump-start your mornings with this gorgeous and good-for-you treat (also perfect for an afternoon pick-me-up): Continue reading →